FREE/SLAVE

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The Free Person

A Free Person is the dominant in a power exchange relationship with a slave. The Free Person has a driving need to be in control of the slave and does not feel complete without the slave. It also means living up to the ideals of being free; honor, self discipline, self awareness, & self control.

It means teaching and guiding your slave into the levels of submission you want from her, without causing her permanent harm or abuse. It means making a choice to live by the Gorean Lifestyle and accepting the rules of being Gorean.

Being one of the Free is more then just giving orders. It's being responsible for your life and the life of the kajira who is trusting you to care for her. It's a lot of hard work and time and energy. In many ways, caring for a kajira is like caring for a child. It means keeping her from harm, real or imagined. It's a responsibility not to be taken lightly.

As a Free Person, you are responsible for the life of another person, who trusts you to put the responsibility before all others. It is bond of trust that is delicate and fragile. As a Free Person, you must strive to NEVER break that bond of trust. Accidents will happen, but the harder you work at maintaining that trust, the better your slave will be.

Being Free means knowing when to demand service and when not to. It means knowing when to push a limit and when to back off. It means knowing yourself, your limits, your desires, and your needs. It also means knowing the limits, wants, desires, and needs of your kajira.

How good you are as a Free Person will be demonstrated in the love, admiration, trust, and behavior of your kajira. If you are a poor Free Person, your kajira will be unruly, untrusting, uncaring, and disobedient. If, however, you are a good Free Person, your kajira will respect and honor you always.

A kajira only wants to please the Free. If, through your actions, you teach your kajira properly, the kajira will behave in a manner that pleases you. If, however, you abuse your kajira; the kajira will find ways to dishonor you. To make you look foolish.

The role of the Free is to ALWAYS protect the needs and safety of the kajira. To place those items above, even their own personal desires. To understand that, while you may desire something, it may in some way harm your kajira. It also means knowing that what the kajira may desire may also be harmful to them, and to steer them away from that harm. You, as a Free Person, control one of the greatest and most dangerous gifts imaginable. You hold the very life of another person in your hands. Do not forget this or you may lose that life forever!

Now this is NOT to say that you let the kajira run your life. Quite the reverse. The kajira needs you in control and wants you in control. So it also means knowing how to control your slave. It means not EVER letting the kajira manipulate you or dominate you. YOU need to be the one running her life, just as you would a child's life. As an adult, you would not let a child stick objects in a light socket. So why would you allow a kajira to do something that is harmful to herself or the relationship that she needs to feel complete? The slave needs to feel your firm grip and control at al times, it just doesn't need to be a strangle hold. It's a balancing act that few can pull off correctly. It takes a special person to make it work.

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The Role Of A Free Person

The Free have many roles in Gor. In this section we will discuss a few of them to try and make it clear to what your role as a Free Person is. Remember, this is not a sum total list of all your roles, just a general overview. There are many more roles not covered here. Your local community can help guide you through what is not covered here.

This is the first, most important role of the Free, the responsibility of the Free is to protect the slaves from harm. Whether that harm is emotional, mental, or physical, the Free must always look out for the well being of the slaves.

The Free are also responsible to make sure the needs of the kajira are met. If she needs food, clothing, shelter, etc., it is up to the you to assure these items are taken care of. Now that does not mean that it is the your responsibility to provide these items to her, it just means that it's your responsible to see those needs are met.

It is up to your to help guide your slave into the levels of submission she wants to give you. Remember, that she took the collar because she wants to give herself to you completely. If she is not doing so, discipline her for it. Make sure she is corrected and knows that is unacceptable to you. Believe me, she will be grateful for it, though she may not act like it at the time. Never let the slave feel like she is in control. If she tries to top from the bottom, punish her and give her no reason to do so again. If you lose control of her, you have lost the one thing she most wants to give you, herself.

The slave exists solely to please you, so give her tasks that would please you to have her do. An idle kajira is going to get bored and leave you. The slave wants to work for your pleasure and if you give her nothing, she will feel worthless and useless.

Use your slave sexually at your discretion. This helps remind her of her submission to you, can be quite enjoyable for both of you, and can even be a great reward for her doing well.

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Rules For The Free



As with all things, there ARE rules to being a Free Person. These rules are no less important then those of the kajira. On this page, we'll go over these rules.

These are 9 guide lines to help new Free Persons.

1. Know Your kajira...

Know Your kajira well enough so that when You come close to Your kajira's limits, You begin to watch for Your kajira to tell You, be it by voice or signal.

Know Your kajira's emotional state, so that when the tears are not of pain, but of memory or of fear, You are aware of this.

Know Your kajira's body, all of it, just as You know Your own.

2. Protect Your kajira...

When You play, Your kajira will become unaware of the world around. Your kajira, and You must be always aware of that world, as well as of Your kajira's state of mind and well-being.

Protect the physical body by checking on Your kajira constantly for changes in the feel or look of Your kajira's skin and Your kajira's eyes.

Protect Your kajira emotions by speaking to Your kajira, always telling Your kajira something, using Your voice to keep Your kajira focused.

Protect Your kajira's desire for You by telling Your kajira constantly of Your ideas for Your kajira's tasks and tests, the way You feel about Your kajira's performance of these plans.

3. Use Your kajira...

Because Your kajira is Your property, You do not want to simply put Your kajira up and never look at Your kajira again, so use Your kajira just like You would any of the things You would own.

Your kajira exists for Your pleasure, so take it whenever You desire, and be as forceful or as gentle as You feel that day.

Your kajira may request it sometimes, and You may not wish Your kajira just at that moment, but when You do wish Your kajira again, use Your kajira well.

4. Guard Your kajira...

Do not let anyone near who may upset or harm Your property.

Guard Your kajira's life and Your kajira's well-being. Your kajira is Your possession. Take pains to be aware of who may be in a place where You take Your kajira. Treating Your kajira as a dragon's gem or a pirates treasure will reinforce Your kajira's need for You.

Keep Your kajira from the mistakes You see coming, letting Your kajira know that You are watching Your kajira, not only for Yourself, but for Your kajira as well.

5. Instruct Your kajira...

Teach Your kajira what You want Your kajira to know. Give Your kajira a way to respond to You. Your kajira cannot read Your mind all the time, and when given new things to do, Your kajira may not even understand the command.

Spend time in explanation, be sure You are clear as to what is desired. Your kajira needs to please You, but if You are not specific about what pleasure You desire, then You will both be hurt.

6. Punish Your kajira...

When Your kajira gets out of line or forgets a command, respond to that immediately.

Punishments can be gentle or cruel, short or long termed, but make them equal to the failure of the kajira. And do so right away. Do not delay punishments, or Your kajira won't even know what she has done wrong, and with that lack, Your kajira becomes fearful of You rather then the adoring kajira that You hold so dearly.

7. Adjust Yourself.

Do not be always the same, vary Your own schedule slightly - and vary Your kajira's as You do so.

Make preparations to deal with sudden changes, be they Your kajira's emotions or the lost dinner reservation that was so important to You.

8. Reward Yourself and Your possession...

When Your kajira has faced a challenge You have given Your kajira and met that challenge, reward Your kajira .. and Yourself.

Your kajira needs to know You are pleased, and You also want to take pleasure in knowing You have found a new level for Your kajira.

Rewards are reminders to both of You, so reward Yourself at least as often as You reward Your kajira.

9. Trust Your kajira...

Your kajira will not purposefully do anything to bring You dishonor, or harm, and Your kajira will not search for additional training on their own.

Trust Your kajira to be gone from Your sight to work or go about tasks that You set, knowing Your kajira will come back to You and tell You all about what Your kajira's seen and done.

Trust that Your kajira will always want and need You, even if You decide to loan Your kajira out to someone else, or send Your kajira to someone for additional training.

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Expectations Of The Free



There are a lot of things expected of the kajira. As a kajira, it's your responsibility to see to it that all the expectations of the Free are met. It is important that you talk to the Free and find out exactly what is expected of you. Below is a brief summary of what most Free expect of their kajira. It is by no means a complete list, but it will give you a good over view.

I expect you to serve Me as I want to be served.

I expect you to accept your punishments and strive to do better when you fail to please me.

I expect you to allow Me to have control over you at all times.

I expect you to be willing to push the level, and type, of control you need to feel.

I expect you to be caring in all that you do, showing Me respect always.

I expect you to strive to remember your submission to Me

I expect to be able to make love to you and take you as I see fit

I expect that you will hold sacred the control I have over you, and realize that I want it and need it as much as you do. I need the care you put behind it, and I expect you to recognize that I also crave the soft loving gentle touch of you sometimes too.

I expect that every time you look at Me or touch Me, that you will cause Me to feel depth of your submission to me in all respects...emotionally, mentally, physically and spiritually.

I expect that when I issue orders you will obey, without question, and bring Me pleasure.

I expect you to pleasure Me in all ways.

I expect to push you toward complete and total submission to Me. I realize that this is what you desire deep inside, and it's what you need to make yourself complete.

I will set guidelines and rules for you. I will strive to provide you security in My control and will not permit you free reign. If you should ever break a rule, or try to top from the bottom, I will severely and permanently give you incentive NOT to try that again. I understand that you need more than anything to give up control.

I expect you to understand these expectations, and if you don't understand them, I expect you to discuss them with me.

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The Philosophy Of The Slave

This section will be fairly long, but one of the most important things for you to understand. This area will deal with the expected thought process of the kajira. Notice I said expected. This is the real world, and most women are not brought up to be able to think in the manner expected of a kajira. Therefore getting a woman to think as a kajira should is not always easy. The Master's job is to try and lead the slave into this thought process and help reshape the slave's mind and the way the slave thinks. If the Master is a good one, He will push hard to reshape the way the slave thinks. This is normal and the way it should be. However, a good Master also knows to care for the emotional well being of His girl and though He will push, He should also be monitoring the slave's emotional responses so He does not push to hard. It's very hard to draw a line here between abuse and proper training as each girl is different and so is each Master. All I can say is to keep the lines of communication open between Master and slave. Let Him know if He is pushing too hard. He should be willing to adjust to the slave's needs.

What does it mean to be kajira?

Being a kajira is part of who you are and should be reflected in all your actions.

Being kajira is not just about obeying orders. It means to serve your need to have someone else control your life. When you choose to be kajira, you give up all your rights. You give over control of who, and what, you are and allow someone else to decide who, and, what you will be. You give up control of your body, mind, and spirit. Your only desire becomes pleasing the Free. To a kajira, there is nothing more important than pleasing the Free and its only through pleasing the Free, do you find pleasure for yourself. It is not a choice made lightly. As a kajira, you have decided to turn over you most basic human rights and trust totally and completely in the Free and the decisions of the Free.



Being a kajira is not just about how you behave in the privacy of your bedroom, its about how you live your life. Granted that while in public, you wont call the Free by title (Master/Mistress), but you will still carry forth your role as kajira in your actions. In everything you do, you will always be acting to please the Free.



One of the most common mistakes made, by both the new Free and the new kajira, is that Gor is about sex. While Gor is a sexual lifestyle, its not about the sex. Goreanism is about the need for control. The need of one person to be controlled and another to take control. Goreanism is about finding yourself in fulfilling that need.

What is a kajira?

A kajira is a Gorean slave girl. The kajira is the property of her Master to do with as He sees fit. Its the kajira's responsibility to please her Master and her only thought should be of His pleasure. A kajira has no rights, save what her Master gives her. There are no limits, as to how she is to please her Master, unless He allows it. In short, when you become kajira, you give up all rights you have been taught you have, and begin to live solely for the pleasures of your Master.

What is expected of the kajira?

The kajira is expected to please the Free in any way the Free wish. The girl is expected to do all she can to please the Free and obey every order put to her, without exception.

Since you have chosen to enter this lifestyle of your own will, and you willingly gave up all your Earth Born Rights, you will be held to your word. When you chose to enter Gor; you chose to become the property of a Free Person and obey the Free, no matter what you may think or feel, and you will be held to that standard. Any deviation from that standard will be held sharply against you and you will be punished for it.

The most important thing to remember is that you made the choice to become kajira of your own free will. No one forced this decision on you, and you can choose to leave the lifestyle. However, while your in this lifestyle you must obey the rules of this lifestyle without deviation. If you do not hold to those rules, you maybe asked to leave and/or forced out of the lifestyle. Remember, you are giving your word, that this is what you want your life to be like, when you tell the Free you are kajira. If you violate the rules of being kajira, you are also violating your word and thereby making yourself look like a liar and no one will tolerate a liar in their Home.

It is also expected that you will be honest enough to tell the Free when your having a problem. Even if that problem is severe enough to make you decide to leave the lifestyle. No matter what, you should be honest and not just run and hide. A girl that simply vanishes from her owner is considered a run away and will be treated as such by any Free that should run into her.

Once you accept a collar, you may not remove it. Accepting a collar is your oath that this is what you wish of your life and of the Free Person you have pledged to. Hence unless you talk to your Owner and convince Him to remove the collar, even if you decide to leave the lifestyle, you are still owned. Remember the only person who can remove a collar is the Free Person who put it on you. You may NEVER remove your Owner's collar!

What is the Gorean Collar all about?

The Gorean Collar is a mark of great pleasure and honor to the kajira. It means that she has found the one to guide her through all things in life. It means she has found a person whom she can trust beyond all others, in a way she can trust no other. It is a bond that is stronger then even marriage. During the collaring, a woman is reborn into who she truly is in her heart. Its more then a band of ownership around the kajira's neck, its a symbol of a love and trust that go far beyond conventional understanding. To be owned is one of the greatest joys in a kajira's life.



Accepting a collar is a great responsibility for in accepting it you accept responsibility for the pleasures of the Free. It is NOT to be taken lightly. Collars are not made of Velcro and can only be removed under the most dire of circumstance. This is not a BDSM collar where, if your unhappy, you may remove it at your leisure. Once a collar has been placed upon your neck, it doesn't come off again unless you die, your owner dies, or your owner CHOOSES to release you. So take great care that the collar you accept is the right one for you.

Rules

Obey the Free

You are there to serve the Free. When you became kajira, you gave up the right to tell a Free Person "NO" for any reason. At this point, you exist solely for the pleasure of the Free regardless of your own desires or discomfort.



Trust the Free

· The Free are responsible for making sure you are safe, happy, and healthy. If you do not trust the Free to look out for your best interests, they cannot protect you.

· The Free know your limits and would not ask you to do anything that would violate your limits, unless they know that your limit is holding you back. If the Free believe that your limits are holding you back from being a better kajira, they will ask you to push your limits. Don’t be afraid to try, the Free would not ask more then you can handle.



Think about how your actions reflect on the Free

· The Free are responsible to train you and help you learn to behave within Gorean Law. If you act poorly, you make the Free look like they are not doing what they are supposed to, to help you be a better kajira.



Communicate with the Free

· If you have a problem, no one can help you unless you communicate it. It is the responsibility of the Free to see you are cared for.

· If you disagree with an order, or feel you are unable to complete the order given to you, it is your responsibility to communicate that to the Free. However you must do so respectfully and with the understanding that the Free have the final say.

· If you are afraid of something or someone, the Free can not protect you unless you tell them what you are afraid of and why.

· Communicating not only means talking to the Free, but listening to them as well. If you don’t understand what they want, ask the Free for more help.



Accept your punishments

· You will make a mistake. A Free Person will punish you. It’s not because the Free are being mean or spiteful, it’s because they care and wish you to learn to be the best kajira you can be.



Remember your position

· Do not try and dominate the Free. This will only lead to your punishment.

· Remember you chose to serve the Free, so be respectful in all you do. By forgetting your position, you disrespect the Free and yourself.



Be honest with the Free at all times

Lying to the Free will only serve to get you punished.

If you’re not honest with the Free, you make yourself and the Free look untrustworthy. Remember your actions reflect on the Free.

If you’re not honest with the Free, the Free will begin to doubt in you and will seek to use you less for fear that your not being honest about your limits and therefore putting yourself into a dangerous position.



Always serve the Free to the best of your ability

If you are not willing to give every serve the fullest amount of your attention and effort, it will be reflected in your serve. It will make you look bad and make the Free look badly as well.

If you try your hardest to perform a serve, and cannot do it, the Free will be better able to help instruct you in how to do it better next time. It’s the only way you will learn to be perfect in your service.



Never give up trying

Mistakes will happen and you will occasionally be punished, but if you stop trying, you will never get an better. Just as in all things, it takes time to learn how to serve the Free as they want to be served and ever one of the Free is different and will require different things of you. Do your best to try and learn all they have to teach you. The only failure is a failure to try.

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What the kajirae want

Not everyone will agree with the contents on this page, but it will CERTAINLY speak the voice of several kajira and what they 'expect' from the Free. This list is a compilation from essays written by several kajira for this website.

I expect to bend to Your will.

I expect to serve You for Your pleasure, thereby receiving pleasure in that with You.

I expect that if I should fail to obey or please You, that you will punish me in ways you see fit.

I expect You to administer punishment solely for your pleasure, should You feel this desire. However, I would expect You to make that clear before carrying it out.

I expect you to understand and respect my need for control.

I expect you to understand the level and type of control I need to feel.

I expect you to be caring in all that You do.

I expect to be reminded continually of my submission to You, whether by a note left with instructions, or a simple word or gesture.

I expect you to explore my limits, as well as Your own, sexually, emotionally and mentally.

I expect to be made love to by You, as well as taken by You - rather it be in Your need, anger, or just as a symbol of Your ownership of me.

I expect that You will hold sacred the control I give you, and realize that I want it and need it as much as I need the care put behind it, and I expect You to recognize that I also crave the soft loving gentle touch of You sometimes too.

I expect that every time You look at me or touch me, that You will cause me to feel depth of Your control of me in all respects...emotionally, mentally, physically and spiritually.

I expect You to issue orders that will force me to examine and push a limit that I may have, which would bring You pleasure for me to submit to.

I expect You to accept that I may shudder and tremble, and perhaps even defy...and I expect You to help me comply to your wishes.

I expect to serve Your pleasure in all ways. I expect You to use whatever tools You see fit, providing that you intend no permanent damage.

I expect You to push me toward complete and total submission to You. This is what I desire deep inside, and it's what I need to make myself complete.

I expect You to set guidelines and rules for me. There is no security or control in me having free reign. If I should ever break a rule, or try to top from the bottom, I require that You severely and permanently give me incentive NOT to try that again. I expect You to understand that I need more than anything to give up control, or face losing who I am.

I expect that You will accept what I have said and work with me to continually improve my submission to You, and to help me to please You, as Your pleasure is my desire!!!